The Past Becomes the Present
Last week it was the end of the month and my February is not over yet. All week I was trying to get some big rocks into my jar.
You’ve probably seen the science like repeatable, experiment. Given large rocks, a jar, some water, sand and medium sized pebbles, you are asked to put it all in a jar.
If you put the sand and small rocks in first, the rest will not fit.
If you put the big rocks in first, then the smaller pebbles and then sand and water, it works. The smaller items settle around the big items.
Its a nice visual metaphor for life and priorities.
The human lesson we learn from this physical experiment is to take care of your big priorities first. Later, fit the small worries into place.
I have been working at this with intention all year.
And as the short month of February wound up, I had to refocus. I had new big rocks to contend with.
I worked on getting them into the jar.
February ended, and the big rocks were still not in the jar.February 1st, 2nd, 3rd came and went, still no big rocks in the jar.
Now its Monday the 4th.
My jar is still pretty much empty.
I am real close to having a big and important rock in the jar…. and empty is still empty.
Stupid, Friggin Metaphorical Breakdown
The thing about metaphors, is they are visual examples of a bigger more complex system.
They help us bring clarity of vision and purpose to a universe can appear much more chaotic.
We apply our metaphor, our belief system, our past history, our models of what should work, and we do our best.
When the Metaphorical tire goes flat
And sometimes any of those, might not work in a situation.
Then we have to do the supremely human thing, and adapt a new model.
That’s me today.
Instead of putting all the rocks into a jar at one time.
I need to focus on rapidly putting one bunch of things in at a time. Next I’ll carry it across the room, dump it in a collection bin race back and repeat.
My ultimate goal in my new metaphor is not to fill a jar, and see the accomplishment and be ‘all done’.
I have to shift.
Today, I have to see that the jar was meant to transport and not hold the things. It was not the ultimate destination.
I have no ultimate destination today.
I have flow, I have movement and so will all of my rocks.
The benefit of moving all those rocks out of the way
I’m going to declutter my rock pile. Get most of it moved. I need the space and clarity to refocus on those big rocks.
Sometimes, yes we need to get the big rocks in the jar.
The jar is just a tool. The jar is not even real!
We don’t have to hold ourselves hostage to our beliefs, our mental models about how it ‘should’ be.
We use those models when we need em and shift to the next when its time.
So how might you shift today, this week, this month?
Have you been following
- an awesome,
- totally sound,
- served you very well in the past,
- tried and true method for being successful, and
- its not working any more?
Well, now is your chance to use that amazing human adaptability talent and just change it up!
Love to hear your experience and progress with this or lack there of…. Its not all break throughs.
I was stuck on one of my recent big rocks for 4 days, chipping away at it, rolling it around, finding and trying new angles to fit it in and not succeeding, but so so very close.
Sometimes, it helps to simply share where and how we are stuck. I’m not offering to fix nor help here. 🙂
Its your rock and not mine.
However, we are all in this together too. We are flying through space on a common big rock.
Sure it is a paradox and nothing wrong with that.
The funny thing is, funny in another unique human way as opposed to funny ‘ha ha’, sometimes as soon as we express how we are stuck, complain about it even, vent, dump, whatever,
That can clear the air for us, and suddenly we can see through the dissipating smoke and observe the obvious answer. It might have been there all the time. We just needed to expel some hot air and blow the fog away.
Go for it today!